Grave monuments are a stirring tribute to the departed members of a particular family. While grave monuments are not nearly as popular as they were in centuries past, they are still allowed in many cemeteries. For those with the means and the desire, they provide a lasting tribute to generations past.
Many cemeteries have rules and regulations in place which restrict the type, size and material for grave monuments. Some will not allow monuments under any circumstances. Ask the funeral parlor what types of grave markers are acceptable. Are certain sizes prohibited? Does the cemetery have any color or material restrictions? Are certain styles prohibited? Ask for a list of all restrictions in print before ordering any monument.
Apart from size, material, color, and design are the three key stylistic elements to consider. Many dealers will have examples of their work you can look at to get ideas. You can also stroll around the grounds of the cemetery for examples that fit your family's taste and style. It is possible to choose a "stock" monument, but when purchasing something of this size, it is best to order it custom.
Monuments can be purchased from independent headstone/monument dealers and the cemeteries themselves. Ideally, your monument dealer should have knowledge, compassion, a high quality product, accessibility, and good customer service. They should be understanding of your grief and treat you with respect. They should also be as accommodating as possible towards your requests.